Writing in the Globe and Mail, David Eddie hears from a reader who’s resentful that her husband is better looking than she. She writes:
My husband and I are the same age. He is a very, very handsome man who is fit and looks quite young for his age. He could easily be a model or work in television. If he were more attention-seeking or had a more outgoing personality, he’d probably have women falling all over him. I myself am a fairly average looking woman. I look my age, and like the mother of three that I am. Usually it just breaks my heart to be seen with him.
The problem is, my husband is not a flatterer by nature and has no interest in helping me feel better about this issue other than to tell me I’m nuts. He can be quite vain about his appearance – not as bad as he could be, but it’s there. When we go out he carries himself like he knows he looks good. I find this to be increasingly unattractive. My natural inclination is to tell him how handsome he is, but more and more I am withholding compliments because I’m not getting much meaningful praise in return.
Perhaps the damage I am trying to control could best be described in this way: I am damaging my marriage by resenting my husband for being better looking than me.
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